Flower Child 🥀

Here are this week’s flowers (note the picture).

I started this routine last year, but I recently got super serious about it about a month ago. I have about three small vases and two bigger ones. When I buy flowers, instead of placing them all in one vase in one area, I divide them among the smaller and larger ones and place them throughout my home, anywhere my eyes may land.

Mind you, I live in a studio apartment, so there isn’t much square footage to begin with. But I still do it. I buy them to remind myself that I am loved and that I deserve nice things. But not only that, seeing flowers releases some type of signal in my brain that makes me happier without me even realizing it at first.

For example, I place one right next to my bed, so when I open my eyes, I’m greeted with something pleasant. I have one by my doorway for when I come in and out. I have one in my restroom and one near my TV. So literally, anywhere I look, I see them.

I have shaped my environment the way I want. I control the traffic now!! Especially in this season of my life where I once felt like I couldn’t control anything at all.

I think a big mistake a lot of people make is expecting gifts or things from others that they could literally get for themselves. Instead of giving away that power and getting upset when you don’t receive it, take your power back and do it for yourself, if that’s what brings you peace.

You want that new perfume? Go to TJ Maxx or even Dollar Tree. Idk what your pockets lookin like, but you have options.
You want flowers? Kroger has them for the low, or go to a florist.
You want to go on a date? Book it.

The point is, start doing the things you “want” or wish someone would do for you. Be that person for yourself. Once you start showing up for yourself like that, your standards naturally rise. What used to feel like maximum effort from others starts to look like the bare minimum.

I’m not saying I know it all, but this is what has been working for me. I give myself what I need, and because of that, I don’t expect it from others in the same way. I already feel satisfied. Whole. Like I have everything I need.

And you do too. You just have to take a moment and think about what you’re expecting others to do for you, and start doing it for yourself.