A 💜 so healthy

Some people think love looks like having your partner as your lock screen, getting taken out for dinner every week, gift galore each holiday, getting posted on social media, yaddah yaddah yaddah. We have been lied to and conditioned by the wrong environments. (GET OFF THEM DAMN PHONES AND STOP LISTENING TO YALL MISERABLE ASS FRIENDS). 

True love looks like:

• Someone speaking life into you when you feel incapable.
• Picking you up when you fall and still deciding to walk next to you.
• Pushing you to perform at 100% capacity (if you can only give 30% on your low days, then that’s your 100% for that day!).
• Making two cups of coffee even when you’re the only one leaving for work, and they are staying in bed.
• Getting your partner’s bath towel when they get out of the shower, even if you didn’t shower with them.
• Consideration of the simple things, the daily tasks.

Love is supposed to calm your nervous system and silence the chaos of the world. True love comes free when it's with two pure souls. Please don't be fooled by counterfeit love. 

God says, " You will know them by the fruit that they bear." I don't think he is talking about the car they have, or house/ apartment, or clothes on their back; it's deeper than that. 

Love is:

• Washing the dishes when your partner has had a long day, even if you didn't contribute to them being dirty.
• Reading the room when they are overstimulated and accompanying them with silence. 
• A warm hug when their shoulders look heavy.
• Sharing perspectives, not controlling their thoughts. 
• Giving them 5 minutes of your day, even if you work 3 different jobs within 24 hours. 
• Showing up at big events that you know they worked hard for, even if you have work or homework assignments.
• Making them hot tea and meeting them on the side of the road (like a  Starbucks pit stop) when they have to grab and go. 
• Kissing them good night, even if they said something you didn't agree with that day.
• Leaving notes on their lunch box for them to enjoy at work.
• Taking y'all's problems to God and not your friends or family. (Get your manager on the phone now!!)
• Helping them grow as a person and not keeping them stagnant.
• Offering a tissue and not telling them to stop crying (they deserve to feel all the feels, don't hold it in).
• Seeing them beyond their mistakes or unusual circumstances.
• Putting their work clothes out for the next day without them asking.
• Encouraging them when they have new ideas (even if you don't think it's best, that doesn't matter, it's not your idea hell!).
• Helping them explore their hobbies or passions.
• Pouring into yourself so you can show up and love them properly from your overflow. 
• Reminding them they are deserving of love and the finer things in life by just being themselves.
• Reminding them they don't have to self-sabotage because of imposter syndrome. Sometimes life just clouds our judgment for a moment,  but that doesn't change what they're worthy of. 

Love is easy, but it feels hard when you've never experienced it that way. When it comes naturally, without struggle, it can feel foreign.... even uncomfortable. Like you don't quite understand it, so you start questioning it. And sometimes, you don't realize what it was until it's gone, then you look back and think, damn...I was really loved.

Be a good person always, and true love will find you. Just pay attention because it may come unexpectedly.